Archive for the ‘parenting advice from a childless woman’ Category
The BBC reports that a new survey has finally come to some sensible conclusions about parenting. They say:
According to the panel, “excessive individualism” is to blame for many of the problems children face and needs to be replaced by a value system where people seek satisfaction more from helping others rather than pursuing private advantage.
It cites research suggesting that three times as many three year olds living with lone parents or a step-parent have behavioural problems compared with those living with married parents.
“Children with separate, single or step parents are 50% more likely to fail at school, have low esteem, be unpopular with other children and have behavioural difficulties, anxiety or depression,” it argues. [Actually, I don't think that's an argument; it's a statement which is either true or not. It doesn't assign causation, just corrolation.]
[Among its recommendations are:]
• a civil birth ceremony conducted by a registrar in which parents publicly accept the responsibilities of parenthood
• free parenting classes available around the time of birth
• free psychological and family support if relationships struggle
• rules making it easier for parents to stay at home to rear their children
The BBC conclude that the government are unlikely to do anything about this.
The full report is here.
I think it’s very interesting that in the list of recommendations four are aimed at parents, six at teachers, and fourteen at the government. I’m encouraged that one recommendation is aimed at ‘All Society’ though I think we have responsibility to do more than just have a positive attitude towards children.
Reading these comments on inner-city ministry from Hugh Balfour on Neil Robbie’s blog, I was reminded of a discussion we had in a women’s book group a few years ago concerning the sacrifices one might need to make in overseas mission work. Unsurprisingly, for parents, health and education provision for their children was very high on the list of concerns. And, of course those things are right and proper issues for parents to consider as they want the best for their children.
But here’s my question: what do children need most?
The best education the world has to offer?
Or parents who model godly, faithful and sacrificial obedience to the Lord?